inverted relationship management

Over on a post on Naked yak about what a FRIEND really means, Chris offers a comment that got me thinking:

It gets even weirder, because of the friends blurring with business colleagues.

Maybe the nature and title of the relationship needs to reside in the hands of the one making the connection, not an outside imposed technological ‘cubicle’ definition.

Relationship specification and definition should perhaps be inverted and opened up – individual centred relationship context – self configurable extendable fluid relationship matrixes.  Just like cones of silence need to be. Supported by technology not defined by it.

It’s kinda like the personal social side of Docs VRM stuff.

Just a thought.


WE the people, WE the bloggers

The other day I read a post titled “Shared Cultures” on the Naked yak blog, the the ending part of which read…

….We should use the potential openness of social networks to make a difference, to shape the future into a much more intimate place – a world of ‘we’.

This comment about ‘we’ resonated with what I read Father Bob talk a lot about – like is typified in the post quoted below. It’s even more pertinent because of the sentence about the blogging ‘we’.

I still believe that a culture (people) creates the technology it needs to bring about what it desires – and in it’s simplest form that is summed up as ‘we’.

No longer us and them, just WE!

6:45pm Wednesday August 8, all the lights go out at my place in South Melbourne. 6:50pm all the lights are back on. Lucky me.

The only torch at hand had flat batteries. The only cigarette lighter had no fuel. It’s a two storey house – dark as the tomb. What would I have done? I wasn’t prepared. Someone was. The electricity grid was prepared. Thanks to lots of fellow citizens who work all hours that the rest of us in a big city may live in comfort.

No longer us and them, just WE. Yet another example of how we depend on each other to do our duty. Ok, a computer put the lights back on but someone programmed that computer. Thank you, that someone.

Hospitals function because some people look after others, put others before themselves.

Traffic flows according to the same principle, whether on earth, sea or in the sky.

When a disaster strikes, natural or manmade, police and other essential service providers swing into action. Duty calls, some go even beyond the call of duty.

Churches do their duty when they behave as centres of hope in their neighbourhoods.

Bloggers do their duty when they act as “social” reporters. The mainstream media is jealous of this emerging information sharing phenomenon.

Pictures are taken by phone cameras and downloaded (or is it uploaded) onto MySpace or YouTube. Is this done from a sense of duty or a desire to become known?


(emphasis added)


[tags]we, naked, bloggers, culture, signal, openness, sharing, giving, father bod, naked yak[/tags]

Extraordinary Everyday Lives #032 : Introducing Kent

The latest EELS podcast is up. In it we welcome Kent as a new co-host.

EELS 32 – 24th August 2007 – Introducing kent

Interestingly, Chris Carfi, who we had on show #30, has posed a timely post on one of the topics we talk about on the latest show.

From his full post here :

quote from Debra Aho Williamson: “[Display advertising] is the ‘low-hanging fruit’ and the real potential of social networks has yet to be tapped.”


[tags]chris carfi, eels032, podcast, advertising[/tags]

Constellations of Context

“And so the chaotic internet suddenly begins to align into constellations of context”.

Back here somewhere in 2005 I was hung up on the concept of context.

Well, it’s recently been surfacing again and I serendipitously came across a clipping I made back in beginning of 2006 as I was thinking about it back then. Somehow it seemed timely.


David Weinberger, co-author of the seminal Cluetrain Manifesto and author of an [then] upcoming book about tagging called Everything is Miscellaneous, explains that when knowledge was imprisoned on paper, it had to be stored in one place, under one address, usually with the one-dimensional Dewey decimal system. But thanks to the internet and tags, knowledge is now freed from the bonds of paper and can be found from many directions: you could discover this page online via any number of Google searches, or through bloggers’ links, or because somebody tagged it under “tagging” or “blather” or both. Then you could use services like or to find more, now related content filed under those same tags. And so the chaotic internet suddenly begins to align into constellations of context.

[clipped from
Guardian column: Tagging; Jeff Jarvis
Monday January 2, 2006
The Guardian]

Emphasis added.

More later maybe.

Love’s seperate tension

A poignant view from the waiting area of the Family Court in Adelaide.Two symbols of the same Nation, seperated.
Two ideas of the same thing.
The tension of love.


(sorry about quality..was taken with my PDA…picture shows Australian Flag on left and Aboriginal Flag on rightin the centre of Victoria Square which is in the centre of Adelaide CBD.)

two flags apart near
Originally uploaded by dnwallace

In Web 3.0, the best wall-less gardens will win

sledge hammers 3.0

In light of the article in Wired and its’ call to action for a “Open Social Net” and the long discussion on this topic that Laurel, Mike and I had on our latest podcast, this quote by Doc Searls over on the Project VRM blog is very timely.

Earth to walled-garden builders: You can’t own customers for the same reason you can’t own slaves: they’re human beings, and they want to be free.

Prediction: in Web 3.0, the best wall-less gardens will win.


Image from Flickr by tarotastic

[tags]doc searls, mike seyfang, laurel papworth, web 3.0, walled gardens, social net, vrm, wired, openness[/tags]

The Extraordinary Everyday Lives Show #031 is out

cone of silence

Yes, the latest edition of the show is up.

This is a long one, two hours. But rather than cut it up, please make use of your pause button.

Grab it and stick it in your ears.

The Extraordinary Everyday Lives Show #031 [Explicit]

This show we are joined again by guest Laurel Papworth, social network strategist from Sydney.

Laurel, Mike and I have a long discussion about social networks, the need for spaces where we can find the freedoms to be all who we are.

A lot of the talk also goes into aspects of closed and open communities, the need to erect gates both to ourselves and our communities, where that responsibility should lay and a lot of other interesting issues about how we relate as people online.

Facebook as the latest incarnation of the meme gets a fair bit of airplay.


FaceTweet – the next killer app?

Would an app that allows people to post a status message to Facebook while mobile possibly be the next killer app?

Was catching up on my rss feeds on my mobile phone while travelling in the van on the way home, as I tend to do. Scanning through my friends Facebook status’ feed to see what they’d been up to, I saw Laurel had been cyber-streaking (is that again) and Mike was enjoying what was happening on the wall at the virtual danah boyd conference (yes, I know it’s not called that but it might as well be) while Beth made her fundraising goal and was buying gear for Cambodia.

I had the thought. Why couldn’t I change my status without having to go onto Facebook? (which is hard in the back of a van travelling in peak hour traffic with a pen in your mouth, pda perched, balancing on your hand, and on a 4inch screen that’s half taken up by a on screen keyboard).

It then struck me. That’d be just like a Twitter clone. You follow your friend’s status feed and post your own.

So, who’s gonna be the first to make that little bit of connectivity work? Unless of course there already is and I don’t know about it. In which case the question is, whose going to be te first to tell me where it is?


[tags]facebook, twitter, danah boyd, mike seyfang, laurel papworth, beth kanter[/tags]

CLOSEDvOPEN: Attitude and Generation gaps

tunnelJP picks up on my “Walled Hearts” post and points to the Generation factor. He writes :

The median age for Too Open is probably Generation X. The median age for Too Closed is probably Generation Y.

Ay, there’s the rub.

It occurred to me that from the Enterprise standpoint Facebook looks very open yet really there’s a further level than that, one which predominately the Gen Y’ers live in and are after. That must scare the pants off them Enterprises if they were to see that level without having a sense of vision for the future.

Certainly, in these rapidly changing times many long held positions are challenged and it can be like peering into a long, dark tunnel. Just yesterday at work, where we are going through massive change anyway – not specifically due to changes in the Webspace – I was challenged inwardly over decisions about service provision and business models. And we are talking tiny scale. Still, my mind went straight to the tension of closed v open and sustainable business development.

JP has had a lot of talk in comments about the generation thing being a furphy. However what I think JP is hinting at, regardless of the labels you put on it, is attitude. As Mike hits on – the stance has been a CLOSED default, the switch is being flipped to OPEN default and Gen Y, M onwards are flipping it. What are you as a participator in technology (and in Enterprise) going to do about it?

Just like the 60’s again…the individual is the new centre of gravity. Linda Stone‘s spot on. So was Bob Dylan.

Read this as a cry to people and Enterprise (of all size) today :

Come gather ’round people
Wherever you roam
And admit that the waters
Around you have grown
And accept it that soon
You’ll be drenched to the bone.
If your time to you
Is worth savin’
Then you better start swimmin’
Or you’ll sink like a stone
For the times they are a-changin’.

Come writers and critics
Who prophesize with your pen
And keep your eyes wide
The chance won’t come again
And don’t speak too soon
For the wheel’s still in spin
And there’s no tellin’ who
That it’s namin’.
For the loser now
Might be later to win
For the times they are a-changin’.

Come senators, congressmen
Please heed the call
Don’t stand in the doorway
Don’t block up the hall
For he that gets hurt
Will be he who has stalled
There’s a battle outside
And it is ragin’.
It’ll soon shake your windows
And rattle your walls
For the times they are a-changin’.

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don’t criticize
What you can’t understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is
Rapidly agin’.
Please get out of the new one
If you can’t lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin’.

The line it is drawn
The curse it is cast
The slow one now
Will later be fast
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is
Rapidly fadin’.
And the first one now
Will later be last
For the times they are a-changin’.


[tags]jp rangiswami, linda stone, bob dylan, gen y, closedvopen, mike seyfang[/tags]

*Dylan Lyrics, “The Times They Are A-Changin” : Copyright © 1963; renewed 1991 Special Rider Music